Like many effective methods, this will look miserably obvious after the fact, but a story first. Always a story.
In the summer of 1989 a friend and I drove to Santa Rosa, CA to attend a seminar in the nearby mountains. The program would last six days, thus it was called the “Six-Day Seminar,” and it was offered by a group called Landmark Education, which at the time I understood to be an offshoot of the ’70s-era Erhard Seminar Training, or est training. There, I’ve said it. I was a 27-year-old est-hole.1
Overall, it was an old summer camp that had been used most recently to train dining-room wait staff for a cruise line. We lived in four-person cabins, ate vegetarian meals, did yoga at dawn, and took part in problem-solving and gestalt exercises in a kind-of emotive boot camp setting.